One of the biggest problems in time management is giving your time to somebody else. And yet, we all do it. The consequence is that other people become adept at stealing your time.
However, unlike your possessions, I can only steal your time with an accomplice: you! If you want more of your own time for yourself, one answer is to understand why you sometimes find yourself complicit in giving it away.
Some of us behave like donkeys. We don’t enjoy carrying other people’s loads for them; but we do it. We do it because it is a habit we have got ourselves into and we have come to see it as our lot in life to be a bearer of burden. No wonder these people look a little sad for much of the time.
You are not a beast of burden. It is your privilege in life to make choices for yourself and to reject a burden you do not wish to carry.
Photo credit: Atanas Grozdanov, www.ImagesFromBulgaria.com
Some people behave like dogs. They will do whatever somebody asks of them because they are eager to please. They act as if the only way to succeed is to win the approval of others. Often they feel that they are doing everybody else’s bidding because they want to, but the truth is that they are putting their own needs and desires beneath those of the people around them.
Habitual dogs may be liked, but they are rarely respected. They don’t achieve fulfilment, just a vague sense of having been good to other people.
You have one life; get the most from the time you have. Sometimes choose to help out because you feel a sense of duty and not to do so will leave you feeling bad. Sometimes lend a hand because you want to please other people. Sometimes say ’no’ and do your own thing, because you can. It’s your life; your choice.
Manage your time
The Time Management Pocketbook reminds us that:
To manage your time better
you’ve got to start managing yourself
It is filled with great tips on managing what you do, where you work, communications, working with others and general personal effectiveness.
So here’s the deal
Don’t be a donkey or a dog all of the time. Make your own choices and be prepared to say ‘no’ sometimes.